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Tips Help You Teach You To Praise Children
By: Lucya Join |
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| Recognition of the child on a very appropriate metaphor - "Praise, like penicillin, like, must not be free to use. |
Recognition of the child on a very appropriate metaphor - "Praise, like penicillin, like, must not be free to use. Use of potent drugs have certain standards need to be careful, standards, including time and dose, because it may cause allergic reactions.
1 does not boast boast all the specific
"Awesome baby", this recognition is really for parents hundreds of times. In the eyes of parents, children grow up in every detail is amazing and worthy of praise - the baby will smile, the baby will be turned over, the baby will jump up, baby speak ... ... It is in this constant surprise, the parents has been used against the child to say "awesome!", "nice!" this evaluation, even a gentle "ah" are full of praise tone.
Parents praise casually, may be unaware of what will bring negative impact, until one day, that child has become afraid of failure, can not stand the slightest setback
Always praise the child in general terms, such as you are really great, let the child know what to do. Perhaps the child just end a meal, their mother said happily, "boy, you are awesome", it is better to tell him "Thank you for your rice to help his mother, my mother very happy." Targeted specific praise make children easier to understand, and know how to do in the future should be, how hard
(2) try not to boast boast smart
"You're smart!" - Another parent usual reviews. Parents of each child's progress if you are using "smart" to the definition, the result can only make the child feel good performance is equated with the wise, on the one hand he will become "conceited" rather than "confidence" on the other hand They face the challenges will take to avoid, because do not want to appear inconsistent with the results of smart
U.S. researchers to solve some problems Kindergarten children, then, for half of the children said: "The correct answers to eight questions, you are smart." On the other half said: "The correct answers to eight questions, you work very hard." And then to They choose two tasks: one is possible some errors, but ultimately the task of learning new things; the other is sure to do very well. Results 2 / 3 of the children were praised smart choice easy to accomplish; boast to be 90% of the children chose the challenging task
3. Praise the fact that personality does not boast
"Good baby" case is a typical "exaggerated personality", parents will unwittingly to mention. But "good" is a concept of nothingness, if the child is always labeled as such a big hat, but he is a kind of pressure
Adults too, when the leaders continue to praise you, will begin be complacent, but eventually they feel the pressure, and even do not want to be perfect in order to get respite
If parents always praised "overstated", the child will have the pressure, feel unworthy of such praise. How would they do? It is finished you just praise him, he would make a difficult thing for you to show "good faith" |
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